YOU HAVE A REPUTATION TO PROTECT
No vehicle drives itself neither can a car steering wheel itself. A driver is always in control of a vehicle and directs it from start to its destination. The essence of the car is to help the driver achieve his goal faster and more conveniently.
Therefore, the driver must remain conscious and anxious. Once consciousness is lost, the vehicle automatically begins to drive the driver and obviously the end is disaster and destruction.
A vehicle that is in control of the driver dictates the pace, direction, and destination of the trip. The reverse is the case, if the driver is in control. This allegory symbolizes the individual and his impulses.
Understanding human nature is impossible without a good understanding of self-control. Self-control is nothing but recognizing one’s self, personality, status, and whose interest one represent. Once the individual lacks the understanding of self-control, his inordinate impulse could damage his records and future.
One who represents an eminent government official at a function stands as the very official. Whatever views he expresses and all his actions at such functions are attributed directly to the distinguished personality he represents. Recognizing this therefore, he must respect his personality, for it will be disastrous if he misbehaves or make unguided statements. It is lack of understanding of self-control from this perspective that makes people drag their reputations in the mud in their homes, work places, etc. Since they fail to recognize who they are and whose interest they represent, they are prone to mar their confessions by returning fire for fire without control.
It is the nature of man to return fire for fire, because he always fears that if he does not retort, he will be considered a coward or a weakling.
It is recorded that Jesus said in the beatitudes, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God.” However, the individual must first be at peace with himself before being at peace with anyone else. This does not mean we would not feel hurt by words, actions, or reactions from others. As human beings, we must feel the impact of the hash reactions, but it is the ability to control the rising temper, the impulse that pushes one into retribution or negative action that is called self-control.
Armed with this understanding, it becomes possible to live in peace with anyone, because man cannot live in isolation. Interactions must exist whether we like it or not, and no man can live a life so good and pure to exempt him from hatred from his fellow man.
A man who cannot control himself makes regrettable mistakes. It leads to very rash reactions, which causes regret. Conversely, one with self-control benefits a lot, because it places such individual on top of the world. He subjects people to apologetic conditions though the apologies may not be tendered orally, yet the attitudes of his adversaries will reveal how sorry they are for their misbehaviours.
This is notable especially when it involves a senior and a junior. The former may be too proud to say, “I am sorry” but will indirectly apologise by being softer to signify his regret for his mistakes.