Girls are complicated. I’m sure y’all will agree with me on that. But, anything that is complicated can be understood, even rocket science. Of course there’s no “magic formula” that’s going to work in all cases, there are however, some basic principles that work in creating and sustaining a relationship with a woman.
1. Consistency and effort
These days, most men seem to be into the whole “hit and run” gimmick, which gives a bad reputation on the ones with sincere and genuine intentions. Don’t be discouraged by this. All you need to do is show the girl that you are interested in her for real and that booty calls and those kind of things are the least things in your mind.
You can do that by showing genuine interest in her. Paying attention to the things she talk about, no matter how insignificant they may seem; what she likes, her hobbies, passion, the name of her pet goat, the movie that made her cry, etc
2. Make her feel safe and protected around you
You don’t have to be Anthony Joshua or bat man. It’s not necessarily about physical protection, but psychological/emotional protection. Be her safe habour. Be the person she calls whoever the world gets her down. Be her source or encouragement when she’s doubting herself, and show her the strength she has within when she feels like she can’t go on, be the person she goes for advice when she did something or doesn’t know what to do. No judgement, no excuses. Just be there. Don’t ever let her feel like she can’t tell you certain things because you wouldn’t understand.
3. Show her you are capable to taking care of yourself
Lots of men think they want a girlfriend, but what they really want is someone that will do their laundry, cook for them, clean up after then, attend to their every whim and tantrum. No girl is ever interested in that, Ever. You are a grown ass man and should be able to handle your business without a woman. There’s nothing as attractive as a man who is organized, neat, can cook, and take care of himself fully.
4. Give her compliments
The best compliments are the least expected ones. When you notice she’s having a particularly lousy day and is in a bad mood, try to brighten it up by giving her a sincere compliment from your heart. Tell her how beautiful you think she is or how proud you are of her. If her issue is work related, tell her she’s the smartest woman and you are positive she will handle it.
5. Surprise her
Surprise her with cute romantic gestures. It could be that blouse she mentioned 2 weeks ago that she felt was so lovely, get her her favorite snack when she didn’t ask for it, Nigerian girls love money, you could give her a surprise credit alert.
5. Be honest about your feelings and intentions.
Don’t try to play coy and leave her wondering what exactly you want from her. Tell her upfront about your intentions from the start. Don’t mince words. Be confident that that’s what you want and don’t leave her guessing.
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