THE DANGERS OF ENVY AND JEALOUSY
Once you are envious, it is the only way you express to everybody around you that you have failed in life. You have accepted that you have failed in life. You have come to the limit of your achievements in life for you can only envy that which you know you cannot achieve. If you know you can achieve something, is there any envy there? Can you be jealous of that which you know you can achieve? That is why I said that ENVY is no achievement. The same way, JEALOUSY is no achievement. People devote their time to these two elemental spirits because any spirit you accept is what will govern you. These two start with FEELING. Why do you feel the way you feel towards your Brother? Why do you feel like having the same qualities, opportunities and everything he has? Why do you think you cannot achieve it if you make honest effort? Why are you angry? Why are you unhappy? Why are you filled with wrath against your Brother because of his achievement, because of his physical appearance; because of his financial achievement; because of his family life? Maybe he has succeeded in the areas where you failed and then you have become jealous, unhappy and angry. Remember, you cannot speak evil of anybody until you hate that person. You must hate somebody before you begin to talk evil of the person. Once you love somebody, you love everything around him. Equally, once you hate somebody, you hate everything around him, even the person’s children are abomination before you. Even the children’s dressing, you must query. You query that of their father and that of their mother. You query even the food they eat; the table water they drink. Their table water will be different table water. In other words, you are not happy with his existence. You will even wish that all those things would be your own exclusive preserve. No other person should have those things in life. These are dangerous spirits that hinder success; that hinder God’s blessings. Once you are angry and unhappy with somebody’s achievement or outlook or family blessings and things like that, or even his business, there is no way you can praise the person’s effort or success; you can never see anything good there. Even if you want to praise, it is hypocritical praise you give.
When you're envious of someone's achievements, you can't achieve what the person has achieved.
Instead of being envious, go to the person and ask him how he did his own.
It will really help you.