WHAT IS SELF-CONTROL?
Self-control can be seen as the ability to:-
1. Delay gratification
2. Restrain impulses
3. Complete unpleasant tasks
4. Put others before self
WHY IS SELF-CONTROL IMPORTANT TO CHILDREN?
Children who have greater self-control can resist temptation, even if the temptation promises short-term rewards. So in contrast, children with less self-control may be more likely to:-
1. Be aggressive
2. Suffer depression
3. Smoke or abuse alcohol or drugs
4. Make poor choices in what they eat
One study found that children with greater self-control were less likely, as adults, to have health issues, financial stress, and problems with the law. That study led Professor Angela Duckworth of the University of Pennsylvania to conclude: “There may be no such thing as ‘too much’ self-control.”
HOW TO TEACH YOUR CHILD SELF-CONTROL
Learn to say no and mean it.
Let your word ‘Yes’ mean yes, your ‘No,’ no.”—Matthew 5:37.
Young children might test a parent’s resolve by throwing a tantrum—perhaps even in public. If the parent gives in, the child learns that tantrums are an effective way to get a no changed to a yes.
On the other hand, if the parent says no and means it, the child learns a basic fact of life—
“We’re not doing our kids any favors when we teach them that the world will always serve up whatever they want on a silver platter.” *
Saying no to your child now will help him to say no to himself later in life—
Help your children to understand consequences, both good and bad.
BIBLE ADVICE :- “Whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap.”—Galatians 6:7.
Your child needs to understand that actions have consequences and that a lack of self-control will therefore have undesirable results.
Help your child understand that he is more likely to have good outcomes when he practices self-restraint.
Teach your child to prioritize.
BIBLE BACKUP: “Make sure of the more important things.”—Philippians 1:10.
Self-control is not just a matter of holding back from doing wrong; it includes doing what is necessary, even when this is not particularly exciting or fun. It is important for your child to learn how to establish priorities and stick to them. Have your child do the important things first. For example, he should put homework before recreation.
Be a good role model.
The Bible states: “I set the pattern for you, that just as I did to you, you should also do.”—John 13:15.
Your child will see how you respond to unpleasant or frustrating situations. Demonstrate by your example that self-control leads to better outcomes. For example, when your child tests your patience, do you react with anger or do you remain calm?
Saying no to your child now will help him to say no to himself later in life—for example, if he is tempted to take drugs or to engage in other harmful practices